SECOND CHANCES BY THE SEA
John 21: 15-17
Read the Scripture carefully as we do each week, and you
will find out that Jesus and his disciples have returned to
As Jesus made what are called his
post-resurrection appearances, we know from Matthew’s Gospel that he said: “Go
tell my brothers and sisters to go to
As Jesus invites them to bring some
of the fish to the shore to cook for breakfast, John’s Gospel clearly points
out “this was now the third time that Jesus was revealed to the disciples after
he was raised from the dead.”
With the stage set at the place
where Jesus and Peter had shared many successes and failures, Jesus turned to a
guilt-ridden Peter, the one disciple who had denied knowing him three times,
and began his question this way: he used his given name which was “Simon, son
of John.” “Peter” was the name Jesus gave him (Peter in Greek, Cephas in
Aramaic, which meant rock.) Here Jesus reverts to his given name either as a blessing
like we use full names at baptisms, or in earnestness
the way a mother calls to her child when he has done something wrong. “Jeffrey
Alan, did you make this mess in the kitchen?!” I knew that wasn’t a blessing
voice, but I still came running! Jesus
used the full name for blessing AND to make a point: “Simon, son of John, do
you love me?” Love was what Jesus
embodied and it’s the very essence of God. Peter says that he certainly does
love him. Then Jesus commissions him to
be the Good Shepherd of the flock while he is gone: “feed my lambs.” Remember
how precious lambs were to the Jews.
Then he asked him again: “Do you love me?” And Peter answered a second time, “yes, Lord,
you know that I do.” Jesus
commissions him again: “Tend my sheep.”
By the third time that Jesus asks him, perhaps Peter was getting
exasperated. Wouldn’t you? He had
already clearly answered the question twice.
Yet he answered him again: “You know everything; you know that I love
you.” To which Peter gets commissioned
for the third time, undoing the time in
Many of you will remember the
wonderful song in “Fiddler on the Roof,” called “Do you love me?” Tevye and Golde had met on their wedding day
through the traditional Jewish arranged marriage. Tevye’s parents had told him they would learn
to love each other. Marriage was based
on a covenant between one another before there was any love between each
another. You might have seen such an arranged marriage portrayed in the studio
film “The Nativity” as Mary became betrothed to Joseph through arrangements by
her father. Covenant is still at the
heart of Christian marriage: its not just about love, it’s about promises. So
in “Fiddler,” after 25 years of marriage, Tevye asks Golda the simple question
that we heard in the passage today: “Do you love me?” Seven times he asks his wife, and only after
the seventh time of explaining all she has done for him for a quarter of a
century does she finally give the straightest answer she can give: “I suppose I
do.” Twenty-five
years and it had never been asked or said; sometimes we need to hear that we
are loved.
Friends, there are many who are
hungry for the words and thoughtful actions of love—husbands to wives; wives to
husbands; girlfriends, boyfriends, children, parents. Do you say “I love you” to anyone? If your
actions don’t show it, or if abuse, neglect, or indifference are
in place of love, then the words are hollow.
If you show love, let the one you love hear it once in awhile. One who longs to hear and know your love is
the one from whom we have come and to whom we will one day go. If you think your parents, spouse, or
children do loving things for you, how many behind-the-scene things has God
done for you? What blessings or guidance have come along because God loves you?
As Max Lucado has said, “If God had a refrigerator; your
picture would be on it.” But like
Tevye, perhaps God, once I a while, just needs to hear the answer to the
question: “Do you love me?” Let your actions support your words when one day
soon, even today, you join Peter in saying: “Yes Lord, you know that I love
you.” And just for good measure, you could say it … three times.” J
Let us pray:
Dear Lord: perhaps it has been
awhile since some of us have talked with you in prayer. To simply say, “Dear Jesus, I love you,”
seems too rushed for such a heartfelt sentiment. We remember that in saying you love your
church, you meant: “I give you my life and my promise to lay down my life for
you. Today those who are committed to you say: “I accept your life and promise;
in return I give you my heart and devotion.
Thank you, dear Lord, for keeping your promises and offering us
forgiveness. Amen.